The number one question that I get all the time from working moms is some variation of: “How can I go to the office or even travel to another country without my kid(s) and not feel bad about it?”
Guilt, as well as its cousins, shame and blame, really have only this purpose – to control you and to distract you from what you are really aware of. Whenever you feel guilty, recognize it isn’t real, it doesn’t mean you are doing anything wrong, and ask: “If I wasn’t feeling guilty right now what would I be aware of?”
Children will manipulate you with guilt, as will adults! My kids try this one all the time, pouty lips and tears. ‘But moooooom you can’t walk away from me, I neeeeeeed you!’ They’re only one-year old (twins) so they don’t actually say this out loud but you can totally hear it in their heads. Two ready-born masters of manipulation.
Your family, your co-workers, peers, friends… so many of us have been taught to believe it is wrong for mothers to spend any significant amount of time away from their children. Even though this seems like a concept that should be long out-dated by now.
If you are a “working mom” you may feel the need to justify spending time at work. Usually the “reason” for working is that the family needs your job as a source of money.
What if you were to look at the real reason that you are choosing to work? Do you enjoy creating? Do you enjoy the break from your kids? What if you didn’t have to justify your choices …and it was okay just to choose?
If you can come to work with the energy of it being a choice that you are making, not something you are forced to do, what would that create for you, your business, and your money flows?
As for the kids, here are some pragmatic tips for creating ease with them and you!
Read my full article and my 5 tips to move beyond “Working Mom Guilt” here on Joy Of Business.