The first year with twins is like running a marathon every day on no sleep, half wanting to die at the same time you’ve never been so glad to be alive, and your heart exploding over and over from the love and laughter. I’ve never laughed or cried so much in my life! Can you relate?
As all moms know, having a baby ain’t easy. Raising kids can be the hardest thing you’ll ever do. And that’s just one piece! It’s not like the rest of your life stops. Are you, like me, the sole income-producers of your family? Running a business on top of it? Trying to have a relationship? A sex-life? Getting your body back?
Let’s just say there is a reason that Gary Douglas, founder of Access Consciousness ® calls us women the warriors of the world.
As my twins approached their first birthday I reflected on what tools I used to get me through…and even to thrive during the first year. There are so many! And I’m forever grateful for Access Consciousness that I have this massive toolbox to pull from!
If I had to pick only 3 here are the ones I would choose. These are actually great tools for parenting kids of any age!
1. Get your Bars run.
I swear I would not have made it through my pregnancy without this tool. And it’s still my go-to today whenever I am sick, tired, grumpy, in pain, or just… having a bad hair day.
2. Ask “who does it belong to” for EVERYTHING!
If your kids are fussy, ask them “who does it belong to?” You just ask the question, kids are smart they pick up on the energy, an answer is not required! 99% of our thoughts, feelings and emotions are not ours so when you ask this question you are just acknowledging that you are aware of your surroundings. Have you ever walked into a room after an argument and just sensed the tension and awkwardness – same thing! And same for your kids, they are just aware of the energy around them. Embarrassingly I have done this in response to a cranky-pants moment with my 8-month old who has turned to me and cried, “mooooomy.” Oops! I have also used this tool for morning sickness and being tired which can be very helpful and again you do not need to know who it belongs to.
3. There are no solutions: The only answer is to stay in question.
This is probably the hardest because it goes against everything that we are taught, especially when we become parents. Have you noticed that everyone wants to tell you what the right way is to do x,y or z and to tell you when you’re doing it wrong! I found myself wanting to come to conclusion when I found something that worked once. Example: I give the twins a bath before bed and they go straight to sleep. “HOORAY! I have found the answer to getting the babies to sleep!” Then the next night, I give them a bath and they are totally wide awake for an hour. GAR! “What did I do wrong??!” The trick is to always stay in question. Always. This one takes some practice and is a muscle you can build!
It’s only the beginning…this first year…has gone by in a FLASH! and I am quickly approaching my second year!
If you know anyone who would benefit, I did a 3-part telecall series called Thriving Through The First Year – From Pregnancy To Baby’s First Birthday it is available to purchase in my shop.